MARRIED FOLK HAVE SEX TOO
I am a married woman. I am just entering into my 40’s. I have a 20 year old step daughter, an 18 year old son, a step son in high school, and a three year old toddler (almost 4). I think my husband is the sexiest man on earth and I know that my sex appeal isn’t lost on him. Having said that, I dare any one to tell me that it is without taste to openly flirt with, grind on, kiss or even talk about sex publicly with him. I absolutely would lose it if anyone ever came at me with that outrageous notion.
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve heard about the opening performance at the Grammy Awards this year. Husband and wife team, Jay Z and Beyonce, took the stage in a steamy, all be it hot as hell live performance of the former’s latest hit (and when I say hit, I mean hit – the internet is sick over the song), Drunk In Love. First let just take a minute and explain to those who may not be fans of the artists exactly what this song is about. Hold on tight to your chairs. It is about consensual, hot, drunken sex between a man and a woman who are MARRIED. Look, now, I was descret with regard to the sexy stuff I did when I was single, but I will be damned if I take it upon myself to play it down now just because some folk get a little uneasy about it. I believe Beyonce (and her - HOT- husband) would testify to feeling the same way.
"The Grammy's is a family show." Really? Ok. Well when you saw Beyonce twirling sexily in the chair, you should have changed the channel.
"She’s a mother now. That song is not in good taste." Oh yeah? If you happen to have lost all your desire to be sexy because you have children then that, I’m sorry to say, is your problem. I don’t have that issue and neither does the hottest female performer in this country.
"He told her to 'eat the cake Anna Mae' and that was taken from a movie where Ike was domestically abusing his wife, Tina." Yep. It was. However, the content of the entire song was about the pure chemistry that happens between a wife who is extremely attracted to her husband after a night of being at the club. I hate to break it to ya, but just because two people are married doesn't mean the sex drive dies; or, the desire to be explosively into each other sexually disappears. May not be your forte - granted. Again, I apologize that you consider this unsettling. I hope that changes because it can really liven up a sexual experience. Jay Z did not mean, eat the cake or I’m going to beat your ass. If that’s what you took from it, so be it. But you’re wrong.
Being a mother and wife does not equal boring. Who told you that? Why does society have to have so much influence on what happens in a person’s personal life? I truly take issue with the fact that every time a person does something that is all them and not influenced by what someone else thinks or writes, here comes the bible thumping old schoolers to to disect it and explain why it's so wrong. Here’s a clue – don’t like it, don’t watch it. Don’t want to hear it, turn it off. Don’t want your children influenced, don’t expose them to it. Side note: It’s no more raunchy than the stuff you let them watch on television and videos. In fact, one might argue that at least these two are married. Children are reciting lyrics from Nikki Minaj and Drake without pause. Do you have any idea what they are saying? No? You should.
This idea that exciting sex can only happen to single people is twisted in itself. The notion that it's cool but don't talk about it is offensive and crazy to say the least. If anything use this song as a resource to say to your children (of adequate age) that once you are married, that’s when the good stuff begins. That might keep some people from thinking they must be near death before they even consider marriage. It might contribute to more marriages and less divorces. Hmmm.
Look, I’m not saying everybody has to be drunk in love. I’m simply saying if you don't like it, that's cool. But don't condemn these folk for the song, the video or the performance. Just like you have the right to voice your opinion, they have the right to express theirs. Everything isn't a natural disaster. Goodness! So, I say hooray that Bey-Z decided to take a stand at the Grammy’s for real good love and real good sex between a married couples. I’m happy they are unapologetic about it as well. I certainly wouldn’t be.